Giving thanks



Dinner is resting, originally uploaded by cynthiacloskey.

I’m hiding in my parents living room, trying to be away from any of the too-loud TVs and the too-busy kitchen and the general too-much of my family telling each other better ways to do whatever it is they’re doing.

My task for our holiday meal was procuring and cooking the central element, the turkey. I had reserved an organic and locally-grown turkey from the Northwest PA Growers Co-op earlier this year, and so we will be enjoying a nice, wholesome bit of poultry.

The roasting being done, my dad has taken over the preparation, performing his customary carving.

As much as I’m chafing at how we all trip over each other and offer unwanted advice at every turn, I’m glad to have my family near and to lead such a rich life that my biggest complaint is that I’d rather the turkey were carved differently.

May your life be as lucky as mine.

Max the Kitteh

I finally named the new kitty. He is now Max, the Maximum Kitteh (and growing into Maximum Cat). He’s already the tallest feline in the house and looks to be still growing.

Max the Kitteh
Max the Kitteh

He is also most of the time Max the Menace, for his aptitude at turning random objects into toys and either destroying them or causing them to be lost under furniture. This evening he could not settle down, persisting in playing with electrical wires and chewing on cardboard and fussing with the piano until I shouted at him.

Then he curled up against my feet and took an utterly adorable nap.

“What is it like in your funny little brains. It must be so boring.”

If you’re reading this tonight, Sunday night October 24, you still have time to get to your TV and set your DVR for this show: Sherlock on PBS.

Masterpiece Mystery: Sherlock (trailer)

And if you are reading this Monday or later and missed it, you can catch one of the many repeats. Which you’ll want to do, so you’re set for the next two Sundays, when episodes 2 and 3 are broadcast. Or in the worst case, preorder the DVDs.

This new Sherlock series is amazing. It was produced by the BBC and broadcast over the summer in Britain. I watched it via (illegal) YouTube uploads, 15 minutes to a segment, the moment they were available. Clever, fast-paced, funny, suspenseful, high-stakes, beautifully shot and edited, with characters that you like instantly and care about.

My friend Christina, who clued me in before the BBC’s original broadcast so I’d be on the lookout for it on the Internets, described Benedict Cumberbatch’s Sherlock Holmes as the “adorable bastard child of Doctor Who and Sheldon from Big Bang Theory.” This is just about right, assuming that child had been raised by Gregory House.

Please watch and tell me what you think of the show. Then let’s all band together to get the BBC and PBS to show future episodes in a much more timely manner. Three months’ delay is far too a wait for great television.

Night of the Social Dead



SXSWi 2009 – Zombies ahead!, originally uploaded by indigoprime.

I saw The Social Network last night, so I would have expected to have dreamt afterwards about technology or Silicon Valley or Cambridge. Instead I had a dream about being in a large hotel/conference center with many people I knew when a zombie apocalypse broke out.

We — the people in the conference center — didn’t know what was wrong at first, just that there was something attacking people, so we spent a long time trying to hide and then to find weapons. I came across a box full of canes and other walking supports, and a choose one long one for attacking and a short one for parrying blows to my left.

Eventually the zombies started getting into the main room. These were unusual zombies — they moved at normal speed, and the only way I knew they were zombies was their eyes, plus the fact that they were trying to bite me. Maybe they were more akin to vampires, but they were not interested in blood, just flesh.

Also, the zombies would talk to me and try to convince me to give up and let them eat me. They also had to give me clues as to how to beat them, but I wasn’t able to figure it out.

Eventually I woke up, and I was both relieved because I hadn’t been eaten and disappointed because I hadn’t worked out how to defeat the zombies.

My last idea had been to throw NyQuil liquicaps to them, to distract them from me and to put them to sleep, and also maybe to start fights among them as they fought over the pills. I think it might have worked, but I’m not sure where I was going to find NyQuil liquicaps.

Women and Girls Foundation honors “Women in Media” — including me!

(This is cross-posted on the Big Big Design blog.)

Women in Media event invitation graphic

Each year, the Women and Girls Foundation honors a group of women who are “engaged in dynamic work in exciting and challenging career fields in Southwestern Pennsylvania.” This year they are celebrating “Women in Media,” and I’m privileged to have been selected among the honorees.

The award ceremony will be part of the WGF annual gala on November 6 at the August Wilson Center for African-American Culture in Downtown Pittsburgh, from 6 – 10 p.m. It’s going to be a terrific occasion, emceed by Laverne Baker Hotep, Patrice King Brown, Eleanor Schano and Sally Wiggin.

WGF’s “Women in Media” event will feature a keynote address by award winning filmmaker and grandniece of media tycoon Walt Disney, Abigail Disney. Disney’s first film, the feature-length documentary Pray the Devil Back to Hell, which won the Best Documentary Feature award at the Tribeca Film Festival in 2008, tells the inspirational story of the women of Liberia and their successful efforts to bring peace to their broken nation after decades of destructive civil war. Disney will give a keynote address at the awards ceremony on the power of media and women’s voices to bring peace to the world, and her film will be screened after the ceremony.

Trailer for Pray the Devil Back to Hell.

Join us at the event! Get details, buy tickets, or become a sponsor at the WGF Women in Media event page.

I am thrilled to be part of this, and I want to congratulate the other honorees and Ginny Montanez, who has been selected for a Special Award of Distinction. I’m thankful to the event host committee for including me with these amazing women.

Find out more about the good work of the Women and Girls Foundation at their website.

Databases are money

This is the headquarters of Oracle Corporation, where I worked from 1991 until 1993.

It’s a striking campus, isn’t it?

I always thought that the buildings looked like big stacks of coins, a huge pile of money perched between 101 and the San Francisco Bay. It seemed a fitting look for the company.

Today, looking at this photo, I have suddenly realized that the buildings are probably intended to look like disc drives. Which is maybe a more fitting visual symbol for a database company, and certainly less creepy than buildings designed to look like money.

So now I like the look of the campus more. And I feel a little silly.

Theater preview: The Royal Family at the Pittsburgh Public Theater

I love “stage door” plays and movies, like All About Eve, Singing in the Rain, All That Jazz, and pretty much every movie Fred Astaire made. So I’m particularly excited about the play that opens the Pittsburgh Public Theater’s new season, The Royal Family.

Video preview of “The Royal Family” at the Pittsburgh Public Theater”

Enjoy a royal romp with the biggest celebrities of the Roaring Twenties in Kaufman & Ferber’s lavish comedy, The Royal Family.

NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 31
DIRECTED BY TED PAPPAS

After a critically-acclaimed 2009 Broadway revival, garnering multiple Tony Award nominations, The Public will present a brand-new production of The Royal Family.

The Cavendish clan lives in a lavish Manhattan apartment, befitting their status as the glamorous First Family of 1920s Broadway (think The Barrymores). The Royal Family takes us into the lavish lifestyle of these Roaring Twenties theatrical superstars, whose outrageous behavior is matched only by their love for their work.

For tickets, call 412.316.1600 or BUY ONLINE.

Disclosure: The Public is providing me with tickets to see this production.

No one notices what you wear: Results of my Six Item Wardrobe Diet

After wearing the same six items of clothing for 30 days, I have learned a few things:

1. Truly, no one cares what you wear. No one notices. The only folks who remarked on my clothes either (A) knew nothing about the project but complimented me on looking especially stylish and sharp or (B) had read my first post and knew the experiment was past, and wondered how it went.

2. It is much easier to get dressed in the morning when one has fewer choices. Normally, I put on and take off at least one outfit each morning, trying to figure out what to wear, before settling on an outfit; often I go through several outfits at a time. During the 30 day experiment I think I swapped my top in the morning four times total.

3. Having multiples of an item — four black tank tops, for example — makes a world of difference. I was able to do laundry just once a week, which helped a lot, particularly given the heat of August and my tendency to sweat. On this, I bent the “rules” a bit. I had just one black tank top at the start of the project, and one white t-shirt. About a week in, I went shopping and picked up three more black tanks and one more white t, and all of them were better designed and more flexible than my original items (looser fit for the t-shirt, wider straps for the tanks to better cover bra straps). This made it much easier for me to feel confident wearing them, and I credit this with part of my surviving the month. So, having great-fitting and well-made items is important, and having enough that you don’t have to wash your clothes every night helps.

4. I used to wear scarves and belts a lot, particularly in the 90s when I wore suits and my wardrobe was more “corporate” looking. Those accessories made my outfits more varied. It wasn’t critical to me, but it was sort of nice. For someone who has a more public life, like TODAY’s financial editor Jean Chatzky who did the same experiment during much the same period I did, it might make a bigger difference. Here are her notes about the project, plus the segment TODAY broadcast on Thursday about her experience.

Video segment on TODAY about “sixperiment” wardrobe diet

5. Choosing the right items for the project is key. Two days in, I realized I’d made a strategic error in choosing linen-type pants during a particularly sweltering August. I would have to wash the pants every time I wore them. I opted to cheat take a mulligan and swap the khaki pants out of the project in favor of a pair of wide-leg black knit pants. These turned out to be a fantastic and flexible choice, one that I could dress up or down easily, yet never looked wrinkled or sloppy. (They did look linty and attract cat hair, but I think that’s mostly because of how I am.) So, as with the t-shirts and tanks, selecting clothes that are flexible and that one feels terrific in makes this project work.

6. Wearing the same colors all the time was more of a challenge for me than wearing the same items. In fact, the day after I completed the project, I wore a plum-color t-shirt and the khaki pants I abandoned after day 3 — in other words, i kind of kept going with just a change of color. (I thought of it as kind of a penalty day, penance for my day two swap.) Then, in the past week, when i could choose anything from my wardrobe again, I’ve defaulted to the black pants and black skirt several times. And this weekend, when I’m traveling to attend a friend’s wedding, I wore the black pants AGAIN, brought the brown capris (which I bet I won’t wear), and packed t-shirts and tank tops, one of them even in black. The major  additions to my project wardrobe for this trip have been a cocktail dress for the wedding and two jackets, one dressy for the wedding and one more casual — and frankly, I could have gotten away with just the one dressy jacket. I’m thinking I might just get another pair of these wide-leg pants and make it a uniform for my work days.

My friend Jenda asked me if I would ever choose to do this six-item wardrobe experiment again. I don’t think I would, not because it was too hard but because I feel I’ve gotten about as much from it — in understanding of myself and in rethinking appearance in general and mine in particular — as I can. Plus, as we’ve seen from my wardrobe choices since the project ended, I’m kind of just living the smaller wardrobe now anyway.

But one way that I might choose to do it again, differently, would be to choose six items that were not as “safe” as the ones I chose this time. Maybe an extravagant frock coat, like Captain Jack Sparrow’s; fancy pants like my party pants or some ruffle capris; a notable dress; a t-shirt and a tank top, but neither in black nor white; and remarkable sweater. Could I wear those items for a month, to client meetings and the grocery store and everywhere else? I’ve said before that I am weary of wearing boring clothes, that I want only to wear fun clothes, yet I drift back to the staid and safe again and again. If I were to do this again, I’d like to challenge myself to be as freaky on the outside as I fell inside.

If you’re thinking of trying the six-item wardrobe diet or any similar wardrobe-limiting project, do it. Fascinating.

I base most of my fashion sense on what doesn’t itch.  ~Gilda Radner


People seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile.  ~Lee Mildon

Fashion is what you adopt when you don’t know who you are.  ~Quentin Crisp